September 19, 2007 - How to Make Your Daughter Bully-Proof
Where: Cherry Hills Country Club
When: Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Time: 11:30 a.m.
Ticket Prices: $75
Beneficiary: Smart-Girl programs
Founders: Kristine Shaw, Alma Lantz, Debra McKenney
Committee Members: Laura Healey (chair), Paige Hamilton, Jenna Messina
Welcome: Nicky Marone, CEO
Speaker: Dr. Rhonda Williams, Katie McKenney and Rashin D'Angelo
Sponsors: Bullying Prevention Initiative of The Colorado Trust; The Cervantes Foundation; Denver Woman Magazine; Happy Canyon Flowers; Junior League "Done in a Day" program; Ruth Beriault; Tammy Klos
Menu: Cobb salad, rolls, assorted cookies
Attire: casual country club
Florist: Happy Canyon Flowers
Donors: Nicky Marone and Debra Gano - proceeds from book sales
Event Coordinator: Mary Salsich, Development Director
Board of Directors: Kristine Shaw, M.B.A., Board Chair; Phillip A Infelise, Corporate Executive; Edric Starbird, Vice Chair; Robin Glickstein, Ed.M, Market Research Associate; Stephanie Ohnmacht, Treasurer; Kevin Kearney, Corporate Executive; Melanie A Gilbert, JD, Secretary; Tina Martinez, Nonprofit Organization Manager; Abby Ferber, Ph.D., Program Chair; Vivian Vanden Oever, Corporate Executive; Debra McKenney, Interim Development Chair; Rhonda Williams, Ed.D., LPC; Alma Lantz, Ph.D., President Emeritus; Nicky Marone, CEO
Blacktie Photos by: M. Darcy
Alma Lantz, co-founder of Smart-Girl, left, with Melly Kinnard, Mary Coussons-Read and Christine Johnson
Do you remember that pretty, popular girl that all the teachers loved? How could you forget! The same girl who ruined your reputation, set you up for that cruel joke in front of the class, made everyone think you were an idiot with just a raise of her eyebrow; maybe she went so far as to summon her pack of friends and come looking for you. Your parents said, “Just ignore her.” The teachers thought you were making too much of it. Well, it wasn’t in your head, and there is a better way to deal with bullies than avoiding them.
On Wednesday, September 19, a luncheon was held at Cherry Hills Country Club with moms (and dads), educators and school counselors to talk about ways to deal with “Mean Girls.” Dr. Rhonda Williams, Assistant Professor in the Counseling and Human Services Department at the University of Colorado at Colorado Springs and one of the board of directors at Smart-Girl, explained the differences between male and female bullies, their friendships and the ways they deal with problems.
She pointed to mixed messages in the media that reinforce gender stereotypes and over-emphasize physical beauty – elements that can foster bullies. And when the television set is the only one watching the kids, you can see why bullying is more of a problem than ever. Girls can take ACTION! They can: Assert themselves to the bully. Create a distraction. Turn to friends for back-up. Include the person being bullied in their activity. Offer support to the victim. Notify an adult who can help. (A.C.T.I.O.N. courtesy of Colorado Springs Assets for Youth.) Parents can do something about it too! Most kids believe adults won’t help them. Creating open communication with your daughters is vital. So is teaching them empathy.
As a parent, giving options, not advice, empowers your girls with choices and trains them to take responsibility for the consequences. You can also teach your girls conflict resolution skills, explain the differences between tattling and telling or passive aggressive behaviors vs. assertiveness. Smart-Girl offers after-school and summer camp programs. This unique and effective program uses “near-peer” mentors to help imbue girls with self-worth, leadership ability and problem-solving skills.
We like to over-protect our little girls, but by giving them the skills and confidence to deal with life’s inevitable problems, no matter how big or small, we are helping them become Smart Girls who make Smart Choices for the rest of their lives. If you think your child’s school could benefit from a Smart-Girl program, or you would simply like more information, contact program director (and former Smart-Girl Guide), Sameen Noorulamin at: firstname.lastname@example.org or 303-815-1921.